Or, if OP isnt the type to be cold at work, perhaps a fan set on low that could blow the scented air away from the coworker? Here we go 1. Your team's target will be based on both expansion and retention goals. The jerkishness is out of line, but even if its all in her head, its still real. The best stories to me, are the ones when the odor in the shoes is the worst! Is your nose running a marathon? I was going to suggest this. But doesnt hurt to try, and Alison and others offer great suggestions. Ugh. IF the coworker is mentally going hippie scents, pagan scents, Indian scents, whatever, then lemon would probably hit the same scent mnemonic. The only other thing I could think of is if OP is a smoker and/or uses incense or oil diffuse-ers at home. Not only that, but it can also be a sign that your female coworker likes you but is hiding it. Its a hippie scentmaybe. I still cant eat creme brulee. My female coworker puts on a lot of perfume. Agreed. My coworker sniffles ALL DAY LONG. Im not allergic, but it just has such a terrible chemical smell that just lingers forever if my coworker wanted to get rid of me, spraying my stuff with Febreeze would do it! about. The advice is spot on. Go away. Didn't find the answer you were looking for? This is so timely! And its one of the most powerful triggers available. He might like you and love to see you every day. Find out what causes asthma, and how to take control of your symptoms. On an airplane I dont need to interact with others, so being anti-social is not an issue. Sometimes though, the cat wee smell will catch up to me and Ill get home from work and WHOA. OK, thats fine and I can handle that. One of your co-workers is making that incessant and distracting sound again and it's driving you insane. However the company could send an office-wide email advising folks be aware of strong scents causing issues. I think we can all agree that the best outcome would be for OP to shave her head, live in a sterilization chamber, and wear a new sterile smock every day. I agree! A hot bath, with scented salts and a glass wine after work sounds awful good to me right now. I used to use an incense in my apartment and didnt realize how it clung until I started to get compliments on my perfume. While I do believe that those people are offering these suggestions in good faith, I also think that this is absolutely the wrong track to take. What It Means: A sneaking nose touch is a hidden way someone might touch their nose. Of not, then she can be moved to a less bothersome location. Full stop. Anyway, I could definitely see it clinging to clothes from air fresheners/oils or any unwashed items and handbags. This is me being petty (so maybe dont do what Im about to suggest), but if she makes some snide remark or complains again, say to her (in a really concerned voice): Have you considered getting help or initiating the ADA accommodation process? Oh gosh, nothing makes you paranoid like cat pee. OP has done a lot already and coworker is just being snarky. It helps keep dye from washing out of fabric, but it can also set a stain instead of removing it. 10 Worst Cities for Spring Allergies. You are kind co-worker. What I found is that sniffing is a form of anxiety. Hmmmm food for thought. I suppose its possible but we have zero information from the letter to indicate race. and was thinking well, that might be awkward enough to end the whole thing and then you said exactly that :). 16 12 12 comments Best Add a Comment MassiveExplosion 5 yr. ago OP has done put in a ton of effort to alleviate the smell. Yeah, I think shes using it more in that sense also. I know were not supposed to criticize OPs, but come on. Oh, like I can use neutragena sensitive skin moisturizer and I can use neutragena sensitive skin sunscreen, but if I use neutragena sensitive skin moisturizer with sunscreen, I break out in a horrible painful rash. I almost did a double take because I could have written this. And that smell near OP could be interpreted that way by the co-worker. I dont think LW should have to go above and beyond and Feebreeze her office and dryclean her clothes and not take bubble baths on her *own time* and and and and. It was only when I went on vacation with friends and that was the only whiskey sold at the bodega near where we were staying that I managed to drink it again. Unless a colleague is burping or sniffing specifically to annoy you, you might not want to elevate the situation by lodging a complaint about her. For what its worth, my mothers wardrobe is almost 100% polyester and that fabric, and other non-natural fabrics, seem to really hold onto smells. Thank you for trying to accommodate her instead of dismissing her, but even if she had a legit complaint, shes been a jerk about it from the start and her comments are uncalled for and unprofessional. Ask your manager to move your desk if the faint scent of a lotion used the night before bothers you that much. I'm glad she's miserable about being single. My one and only true hangover. People smell a certain way. Whenever I'm within 20 metres of a sniffer, every sniff makes my whole body . I was going to say this. Smoking stinks, in addition to all the other negative side-effects. My coworker walks in after 8:00 a.m. every single day. The runny nose, persistent stuffiness, and postnasal drip of the sniffles are often self-diagnosed as a cold. I agree about the patchouli. I drank way too much Goldschlager when I was in high school and still cant deal with it! Makes me smell like an old shoe. Constant snarky comments and exaggerated sniffing sounds like shes having fun at your expense rather than suffering from scent sensitivities. Most wearers would recognize such disgust like the OP did and stop wearing it but I can see others loving it so much that they would not give it up. I dont even own any alcohol-based spray-type perfumes, just oils and solid perfumes, and I still refer to them all as just perfume, so I think thats what OP meant. Youve done more than most people would. I find it appalling. I only tried it in my hair once years ago, though. Cleveland Clinic is a non-profit academic medical center. My friend actually did his dissertation on this topic. Yeah, you have definitely gone above and beyond to accommodate this coworker. Which also reinforces my belief that your coworker can go walk off a pier. Although her coworker would probably be like your smock smells bad., I, for one, welcome my new sterilization chamber overlords. To clarify the role of habitual sniffing caused by nasal diseases in the pathogenesis of middle ear diseases, 112 pediatric patients with secretory otitis media (183 ears) were examined for associated nasal diseases and habitual sniffing. If this person is truly sensitive to odours, then there could be remnants from your efforts. I had a similar experience with norovirus and a bacon and Stilton jacket potato; it was years before I could look Stilton in the eye again! But this sounds like a specific attack on the OP for some reason. I have sniffels all the time. incense? Because you sniffle 24/7 and you dont ever even try to blow your fucking nose.. Whether or not the coworker has a sensitivity, her behavior is way inappropriate. But if she has a life-threatening allergy thats on a hair trigger, youd have to ask coworkers and their families to change everything in their routines, and Im still not sure it would work. I agree with you, and I think that so many of the suggestions here were way over the top. Business Etiquette & Workplace Manners on Burping and Sniffing. Yeah she can look for more scent sources, but none of this makes any sense. For me those are much worse than perfume. But scented deodorant? Stressful couple of days. The only solution we have is avoidance, and that is made virtually impossible by the laundry and cosmetics industries. The brain is, if youll pardon the expression, at the heart of a lot of this. She is a jerk but she may imagine she smells patchouili because it is so associated with you. Sorry, I might sound rude but I personally think all offices should have a no parfume/no strong aftershave rule because although the wearer of a parfume may love the way it smells, odds are NO ONE ELSE does. They will tackle the situation without compromising your request. Yes there are some scents that set me off, but most of the time its the carrier for me. I would also say they need to go to their manager or HR. Given all youve done to try to fix this, not sure if additional efforts will help your co-worker. I believe it also has been done with similar results for people of color. The sky doesnt have a smell unless you want to smell like pollution imo. It provides non-invasive noise and pleasurable feelings, to effectively neutralise the unconscious attention system's ability to distract us. Once that boundary is understood, you can use that to have a productive discussion with the coworker. They feel so over-the-top as to be completely unreasonable to ask of a coworker. Or shes a meanieface whos decided youre a smelly hippie, shes grown to anticipate the smell and shes decided to tease you about your smell even if it isnt there. He doesn't need to want a relationship with you. It looks like you just have someone who just doesnt like your scent. If a coworker takes your idea and uses it as though they came up with it, without . Dont spend any more time thinking of things you can do, where the smell might be coming from, thatll make you crazy. Had this and it turns out. I also switch my perfume up pretty often, so its not like I have one scent that Im repeating every day. We go out to eat Mexican food at least once a week, and each time I remind him at least once to chew his chips with his mouth closed. Seems like once someone gets a little of what they want, they feel comfortable asking for a little bit more. Every. Allergies. Apparently it made her sick when she was pregnant with me. Its not so bad, really, to catch a whiff here or there, but a lot of patchouli is in the form of oil, which makes it even more concentrated and in your face. I have had to give away clothes I bought on eBay before that were so saturated with perfume that I could not wash it out, even with multiple washings and with leaving the garment hanging outside in the fresh air a long time. Scent is the one sense that bypasses the frontal part of the brain and hits directly into the limbic system of the brain. Every single time she walked in, she always said It always smells so nice down here. And then she would call me by the wrong name. It was just easier to ask me not to let it bother me and keep asking me to try new products and deal with her myself. I mentioned to my manager that I was cutting out the one thing I could think of that could be leaving a scent, and so far there hasnt been additional complaints (that I know of). With my coworker, it gets bad every few weeks. It's a little passive aggressive but can't hurt. Her co-worker is being incredibly rude. It usually is, but theres no guarantee. Learn how we can help. For those who like it and for whom it is normal it is fine. If someone is wearing perfume with patchouli in it, I get an immediate headache; if its a lingering scent from a previous days perfume, Ill be aware of it and will develop a slow headache over the course of the day the longer Im around the scent. I cant go into a store that just had new carpet put down. You might have to accept it for now, since you cant reasonably ask her not to wear her favorite perfume on dinner dates, nor can anyone else dictate her showering schedule for her. So stop it. OP, could that be the source? I use a kind of spicey hand cream as a scent and I have noticed that it is hard to get out of clothes. Maybe the hierarchy of OP compared to the coworker is part of this. My conditions have all been verified by multiple doctors and specialists.). I eventually left for another job and Im told she left right after. Doesnt matter, its never clear and I cant stop sniffling. Thats not happening, sonny Jim.. Diors Dune was once likened to the smell of mannequins, so maybe she can pull a Kim Cattrall on this co-worker and camouflage herself as a store dummy. This co-worker is handling things very immaturely, but patchouli is a big red flag. Thank you! Sorry, but no. It took a long time, and as a result I cant use that detergent anymore because I associate it with spending hours with a mattress that reeked of pee. It doesnt smell nice on me, but my husband used to wear it and I loved it. Occasionally I feel like I can smell the soap my first boyfriend used, and it still makes me feel on edge (the relationship was, unfortunately, abusive). It wouldnt make the way she treats the OP any more acceptable but it would at least explain whats happening. Alisons suggested actions make it clear that OP has reached the end of their ability to help and puts it in Coworker and Bosss court. OP, Im someone who doesnt always do well with strong scents, and I think your coworker is acting like a jerk. Id be pretty miffed if I had to stop using things in my personal life. In other words, I tried steps 1-4 above, but was on my own to deal with this nut and couldnt get anything to work. I agree. I do keep it open when not in use, but it gets gross anyway. 1. It was Jack Daniels for me. (That obviously wouldnt account for the co-workers still smelling patchouli, but it does mean that unscented isnt, as you say, necessarily a solution.). I have spent years finding a shampoo routine that doesnt make my hair look really clean, but is passable, affordable, and most importanly doesnt make me bleed. It seems that the OP has taken a lot of measures to make sure that the coworker is comfortable. Thats worth adjusting a hair /skin/laundry care routine for so someone doesnt accidentally kill them or put them in the hospital. Since then Ive tried to find ways to compensate for it without putting it off on people around me. I supervise a manager who falsified an employee write-up but I dont think she should be fired, getting out of shared intern housing, why are so many executives condescending, and more, interviewer fake-rejected me to see if I would fight for the job. And there can be a lot of cultural baggage around scent. They ruin maple ice cream for them? I love indie oil type perfumes and patchouli is not a note I typically wear (although I know very well what it smells like). That last bit of your post is the trouble I always have with scent-free initiatives. I think its time for OP to otherwise adopt a broken record response, like Nope, not wearing any perfume today. ! comment kinda looks like this coworker is looking for drama. They got washed by themselves. I remember wanting to scoop my eyeballs out in classes or long, multi-hour exams with chronic snifflers, even though I have a chronic low-grade sinus infection Ive struggled to treat my entire life. The OP has been, it seems, acting like a reasonable adult, which is great when dealing with another reasonable adult. I always smelled like pepperoni and pizza grease. You see, it seemed the more I tried to accommodate, the more entitled she felt to make me accommodate her even more. Had any luck? I lost a week of my life once because my husband used one of their plug ins. This. OP has been beyond accommodating; this is now a management problem to solve. Agreed. Youre going a long way to accommodate her, which is nice of you.

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