Series 1 Episode 2 of 3 Sally Phillips meets celebrated poet Lemn Sissay to discover how a hard childhood shaped his view of Christmas and how he now helps spread joy to hundreds of other care. They are people with so many prejudices stacked against them. Just listened to your story on the Moth Podcast. And Christmas, as for any kid in care, was the hardest time: when the festive lights served only to expose what was missing, and would never be there. Sissay left care three decades ago, but he says you dont leave it behind part of you is always that rootless kid, that person with no one to chivvy or complain about, no one to boast to or moan about. Its why I enjoy the chaos of such a peripatetic career. For this the person to write to is Nicky Wake. You are so inspirational and that is enough to turn a Young Persons life around. Sissay was appointed as a Fellow of the Foundling Museum in 2014. Dear Lemn Passion in your sounds Congratulations on meeting your mother the beauty of Ethiopia, after so many years how I wish Ethiopia had its Emperor again ! My cup is always half full. While I didnt know my biological family, I knew my parents and brothers and sister must have been of colour. A few minutes ago I asked the socially distanced audience in Dubai to take photographs of the live event and post to twitter so I could see them in Dubai with myself in London all in the same place! I was also a Foster child I am a year older than you. Not just any food or services, though: only the best will do. Hes talked before about a later meeting, but this first reunion, on Londons South Bank, he hasnt discussed. So much shame that we bear for what we have done, ALLOWED. But thats a false economy. You say fostered children are the most overlooked in society but I believe its adopted children of the 50s 60s and 70s. You have such grace that its almost tangible. I entered the world of poetry very late in life but it doesnt matter as long as people like you inhabit it. His net worth has been growing significantly in 2021-2022. Those good old days the 60s when the world was at peace, good luck in all you are doing and God bless you, Hi Lemn, I just listen to you on Aljazeera, I love listening to your poet, but more your story, we all have those stories, Im so encouraged by the way handle life in general. He is a regular contributor on BBC Radio 4's programme Saturday Live, which in 2008 was nominated for two Sony Awards. I am known to my own people anywhere in the world. Google "Lemn Sissay" and all the hits will be about him. But for now, hes going back to his reading. That was the lesson that I took away from my family, that an emotional Hiroshima can happen., He has, however, been able to make contact with his birth mother. We neeed more & more people to speak out about our uk care system and the kids that are in it they are HUMAN they have feelings we have hearts Your desert Island interview was the best I have ever heard. I loved that thought and have never forgotten it. 3,612 talking about this. Your life is in your writing. He was awarded the 2019 PEN Pinter Prize. Thank you. Because u did not run away from the truth, I am happy that you found the answers for your questions. We will update Lemn Sissay's Height, weight, Body Measurements, Eye Color, Hair Color, Shoe & Dress size soon as possible. So lovely that you remember that. Sissay's poems are read frequently on All Fm and one of its older presenters, Li, aged 84, translated and read his poem "Invisible Kisses" in Mandarin and English. Lemn Sissay was born on 21 May, 1967 in Higher End, Orrell, United Kingdom, is an Author, broadcaster. Your smile , which can light up any room and many hearts ,was greatly appreciated by all who met you..what a special gift you have. I went to Foster Parents who loved me very much!! Lemn had just left care. And its about the future, too. Wishing you all the very best in life. No telephone calls. Allthose questions that are a pain in the backside are also a wake-up call, a prompt.. I dont drink any more, but there was a point where I was losing my way. Hi there, I only recently listened to an audio version of Why on radio 4. At the age of 17, Sissay used his unemployment benefit money to self-publish his first poetry pamphlet, Perceptions of the Pen, which he sold to striking miners in Lancashire. People say: If youve got no family, you can always have friends. But what they dont understand is that your friendship-making skills are themselves connected to being part of a family., Sissay was awarded the MBE for services to literature in 2010. Sissay has also set up the foundation Gold from the Stone, which is dedicated with helping children who have left the care system. How could they not have sought to unite you with your mother, on receipt of her letter in which she asked for you. Remain blessed. Your vibrant OK-ness inspires and will inspire She would have been one of the first older black women that I had known. I look forward to reading your poems! He is a regular contributor on BBC Radio 4's program Saturday Live. He has never married, and has no children. Im a 55 year old embarking on Novel Knitting. Hope to see you again in Toronto!!! At one dinner last year, two sisters who hadnt spent a Christmas together for seven years sat down side by side; another guest said that every year when the John Lewis ad was launched she felt really sad, but from now on, because of the Christmas Dinner, she wouldnt have to. It ended in me sitting at the computer in tears over your journey. I feel,like she really understands having lived on the other side. Most racism isnt spoken, just like most sexism isnt spoken, and thats when its most damaging.. [12][13][14] Sissay was made an Honorary Doctor of Letters by the University of Huddersfield in 2009 and was appointed Member of the Order of the British Empire (MBE) in the 2010 New Year Honours. You are a gift to children who have gone through the care system, with all its failings, a gift to black people generally, a gift to immigrants in the Uk, a gift to young black males who feel the system is against them (as it often is) and need/are looking for (very scarce) role models and a gift to those dealt a cruel card by life in general. I just finished your book. It was big relief. I have just heard you on Sunday Miscellany, your powerful words and poem moved me to tears! Hello Lemn, I just ordered your book My Name is Why and cant wait for it to arrive as I have read your initial story which brought me to tears I have lived a similar story and its made me tough (too tough) and I NEVER cry after reading just your initial story I sobbed for a while and realise now how cathartic it can be. Hi Lemn, it was such an honor to meet/see you at the Bikila awards in Toronto. [4] His birth father, Giddey Estifanos, was a pilot for Ethiopian Airlines, who later passed away in a plane crash in 1972. Greater existential concerns were troubling him. Happy family reunion. I plan to get to know your work. I get so irritated when I hear people saying to children in care: Why dont you become a social worker when you grow up, so you can change things? How little imagination do these people have? Im sending you a big hug and want you to know I am thinking of you today and wish you the best in life moving forward. Baby Lemn the name means why in his mothers native tongue of Amharic was fostered by a very religious white Baptist couple in the Lancashire village of Ashton-in-Makerfield, joined first by a brother, then two sisters. It explores the painful existence that Sissay endured after that pre-teenage parting, and how poetry helped him to move beyond it, to become an MBE in 2010 and official poet of the 2012 Olympics. He has never married, and has no children. "[17] In the same month, Sissay was the castaway on BBC Radio 4's Desert Island Discs.[10]. This continued until he managed to get hold of his birth certificate, finally discovering his real name as well as that of his mother. As well as the flourishing music and comedy of the time, there was a surge of Caribbean poets like Valerie, James Berry, Linton Kwesi Johnson, Benjamin Zephaniah. Im happy you found your mother. Poet Lemn Sissay with care leavers Chantelle Chamberlin (left) and Megan Macleod. That was important. I have trained as a foster Carer and I am waiting for my second child. I am sure we will meet one day. Lemn Sissay as a child, with his foster family He tells me what happened when he met his mother a decade ago. Even though I live in London, I'm near Millfields Park and Hackney Marshes, so nature is a central part of who I am as a city-dweller. I am very pleased to hear you were reunited, I myself being Senegambian. I will retire next year and am currently fostering the daughter of an ex F Child.I fostered her Mum 25 years ago!! He wrote in his memoir that: I couldnt do anything right. Longtime friends and celebrated poets Lemn Sissay and Valerie Bloom were introduced in the late 1980s. You are indeed BLESSED ! Born in 1967, Sissay was the child of an Ethiopian mother who was forced to give up her son against her will; he was fostered by a white couple from Lancashire who sent him back into care aged 12. Best Wishes and thanks for reaching out, Im so sorry you and your mother had to suffer for so long ..but how awesome is it that you have her now ? And regardless of family history we all deserve Such a lovely heart warming story. Her mother at 48 and as a single mother deemed unfit to be a good parent. Instead, the arrangement continued until Sissay was 12, at which point his foster family gave him up, and he was sent to a childrens home. May many see or hear about you, learn from you, follow your example and take inspiration from you. Keep shouting from the roof Tops on behalf of the Kids Thank you so much for writing the book, for being so open and honest, and making me refect on my patronising tendencies. it cant be worse than the persistent insomnia, night terrors etc which are crowding in on me and are getting worse as I age. Lemn Sissay became Norman Greenwood, Norman being the name of the social worker who had arranged his placement, and Greenwood the family surname. He has a Buzzcut hairstyle with clean and shaved facial hair. I write poetry well do it then, get up on stage, be who you are.. Does it get better? But so you should, and so we all should be able to. Poet Lemn Sissay talks to Chris Harvey about surviving rejection from his foster family. Details are in The Seven Goals of Christmas blog; [email protected], Lemn Sissay: I would die if I didnt live in the present, Original reporting and incisive analysis, direct from the Guardian every morning. Who were you you asked but one thing you knew you were a poet The better I did, the worse I was treated. He was taken away to a childrens home the beginning of empty Christmas time and hollow birthdays, as he describes it in his memoir. Weve met about twenty times in all. Required fields are marked *. Im really looking forward to reading Tender Fingers in a Clenched Fist and getting to know you work. What are you? If we were to truly replicate what a family is for the child whos being looked after by the state, if the state was truly to provide that, it would give them the best of everything., But what society gives the kids is not the best; its the dregs. He was also given a letter from his files dated 1968, written by his mother to Norman Goldthorpe, pleading for his return. Katie. The initiative, part of the university's school of law's Black Lawyers Matter project, was created after it was found that "out of some 1,200 undergraduates, only 14 UK-based Black males of African and Caribbean heritage were registered on law and criminology courses, and of these none were from lower socio-economic backgrounds". Discover today's celebrity birthdays and explore famous people who share your birthday. So many young men had come through the Care system, sharing the same chaotic experiences, all ending up in prison. He also contributes to the BBC's Book Panel. According to our Database, He has no children. Roots lost and friendless at 18 You look so much like her. Your story is so touching that I felt as if we were conversing. [26][27], In June 2019 it was announced that Sissay had won the 2019 PEN Pinter Prize, awarded to writers who take an "unflinching, unswerving" view of the world, with one of the judging panel, Maureen Freely, saying: "In his every work, Lemn Sissay returns to the underworld he inhabited as an unclaimed child. He says he may be unsure of how to "deal with peace" but he has found a special kind of calm in helping others. During your interview with Christiane Amanpour, I was impressed that you had the strength to successfully sue the British foster-care system. In the same month, Sissay was the castaway on BBC Radio 4's Desert Island Discs. The release, he says, is an examination of what could happen to a single child brought up in the UK care system. In January 2016, Sissay wrote an article in The Guardian about the Foundling Museum's "Drawing on Childhood" exhibition in which he noted: "How a society treats those children who have no one to look after them is a measure of how civilised it is. I wish I could give comfort and love to the boy you were. My wish for you would be to meet a wonderful partner and enjoy your life. I am proud to be Chancellor of this fantastic university and extremely grateful to everyone who voted for me." Lemn Sissay was born in the village of Billinge, near Wigan, in 1967 to an Ethiopian mother. So yes, he says, he would love to settle down with someone; he would love children. Hello Lemn, [3] The events are depicted in the play Something Dark and in BBC documentary Internal Flight. It doesnt change. Thankyou for writing and sharing it all. What do you do? Congratulations Lemn. His real name as well as the name of his mother were concealed from him. Hes a bit like a musical version of David Starkey., We talk about the TV historian, who has been stripped of his university posts and ditched by his publisher after his inflammatory comments in an online interview. I didnt do raving. We are proud nation and you add more pride to us!! View popular celebrities life details, birth signs and real ages. She was twenty one. I was a bit of a wild child when she met me. His mother, fearing that she did not have the necessary resources to care for him, gave Sissay as a baby to social services with the intent of taking him back once she was able to care for her child. Were they part of some cult or something. His Twitter account is@lemnsissay and has 70.7K followers. No telephone calls. You should know that I have no family, His life story is the subject of the first film in the new series of Imagine Lemn Sissay: The Memory of Me. The villages of Lancashire are all monocultural. I wanted to find my family, he says. She was working for the UN in the Gambia.[5]. "To be able to call the UNDP where my mother had worked for some years and to ask her'are you my mother? Your story touched me so that I felt that I so regret not having met you when you needed a friend. Ps. When he was 12, Sissay's long-term foster family returned him to the Wigan social services, saying that he was becoming increasingly difficult and that the "devil" was inside him. If you were sucked into the vortex, man, it just asked you to step up. Hello Lemon, I think its gone well today. Then I discovered Val it was as if it was written. Before we get to know each other Its been my privilege to share that difficult part of their lives with them, and at my age now of 74, I wouldnt have had my life any other way. Im super-excited for it.. Not having a family meant I didnt really know how to connect to friends. I am English I am Fench my mum was from Barnsley my mum was from France do you speak French no! Genet. I felt like this was an indication that I had been cheated. Her disapproving look can go a long way. The shame of being illegitimate and silenced out of respect for our adoptive parents. Peter Andre looks back: This sauna suit would always come off mid-song, Original reporting and incisive analysis, direct from the Guardian every morning, Lemn Sissay and Valerie Bloom look back: I was a wild child when she met me, Lemn Sissay (on left) and Valerie Bloom in 1992 and 2022. Terrible. Since birth for what it's worth And I am so glad you kept your birth name (Lemn Sisay) it is a beautiful name for a beautiful human being. One thousand, apparently. He is a regular contributor on BBC Radio 4's programme Saturday Live, which in 2008 was nominated for two Sony Awards. I am so happy to find my missing link. All my best wishes to the half filled cups in our world. I want to live. And the Christmas Dinner isnt about surviving; its about living., For the invitees, the event is life-changing. I cant help but wonder what your adoptive family think now and if they have any regrets. . Happy for you both Lemn. Up until now, some of those people probably thought care leavers equated to shoplifters. Lemn has never married and does not have any children. Hes a chancellor now, of course! Words made some kind of sense of your heartbreak I want him to be with his own people, his own colour. Love the one about the precious woman and her porcupine bum. I have tried for a long time to write my story (recommended by therapists) but each time I try it gets too painful, dredging up all the bad memories. So it's worth believing. When I was younger, I probably wasnt the easiest person to connect with, but there were people who had a depth to them and could absorb it, and Val was one of them. Because, when it comesdown to it, who gives a shit whether Im chancellor of a university? , money, salary, income, and assets. The trauma has had a long-lasting impact on his adult life: there have been bouts of depression, a difficulty in forming long-term relationships, 20-plus years of therapy. Toyou, its your life. My primary aim is to inspire and be inspired. I just listened to your interview on desert island discs. Thank you. Born in 1967 very close in age to you. His mother was a student at the time of his birth who had come from Ethiopia to study in Bracknell City, England. I met my mother for the first time through this picture which was taken a year before my conception. Im happy. I hope the next interview focuses on that. Thank you for being you and allowing your gift to flow through your poetry. But what dignity, what courage, what irrepressability (if theres such a word!) Each time we meet up its like no time has passed. Hes looking at us. It was not okay.. It was easy to see this as the beginning of a promising career. For the next 24 years, he did whatever he could to get his hands on his files from the Wigan social services. Totally aware, hypersensitive, neurotic, worried, unable to sleep at night, I moved in with friends of our family; by age 15 my name was . I found it extremely moving and inspiring. But at the time, Sissay had little interest in advancing his profession or building a name as a poet. But I was dark skinned I have a French name there were always questions. She refused to sign adoption papers for him, and wrote from Addis Ababa shortly after his first birthday, saying she would very much like to bring him to Ethiopia. No. From the programme I believe you have the capacity to be a wonderful partner to someone. How truly inspiring to hear about the kids writing poems and searching them out in the dark with a torch. (dreadful reality TV seems to dominate these days how did that rubbish ever enter our space when there are important stories to tell?) .just wondering what you felt the moment you saw her picture for the first time. I remember your thoughtful Night Mail re-makes for radio. Interview Lemn Sissay and Valerie Bloom look back: 'I was a wild child when she met me' Harriet Gibsone The poets recreate an old photograph from when they first bonded - and reflect on more. She became a beacon; a luminous magnetic point that shone to me. A question that defined his formative years. He has since forged a bond with his wider family in Ethiopia. Iprobably look like a success, he muses. I was at the BBC Radio Theatre last evening, listening to your Origin Stories being recorded. And while he is not sure whether he would count much of his lifes work as achievements, there is one thing he is incredibly proud of. I remembered your search starting a long time ago now. 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